5 Rules For Happiness

1) Look forward hopefully.

2) Try to like people. If you want to be happy with people, you have to try see something you can like in those you meet, or at least something to respect and admire.

3) Watch these moods. Try to be the same, no matter how you feel inside. Don?t let yourself be on top of the world and hail-fellow-well-met one day, and so grumpy the next that it is too much effort to raise a smile.

4) Give other people a chance. Show that you are interested in others, not just interested in yourself. Encourage people to think that they matter by listening to what they have to say.

Be considerate and thoughtful. Remember birthdays, anniversaries, and special occasions, and be as generous as you can afford to be. Like our flowers, love, affection, and friendship have to be nourished by giving as well as taking.

How To Say NO ?

Saying yes and then regretting it is the habit of a life time for many people and it leads to unhappiness and stress at work. In some work situations it could be damaging to your self-worth or even very dangerous to say 'yes'. Sometimes you will need to say no in order to:

- protect yourself from physical or mental harm
- stop racism, sexual harassment, anti-lesbian and gay or disabled behaviour or treatment

In any difficult or dangerous situation get proper advice (e.g. from a union rep or CAB). In general though it's useful to learn to say no where appropriate in the workplace. Here are a few steps which may help:

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
- practice saying no at home, in front of the mirror, with friends so you get used to the word 'no'
-try saying no politely to everything you're asked to do by friends before deciding whether you actually want to do it or not - you can always change your mind and say yes later if you want to.

BE CLEAR
- be clear about what is being asked of you
- make sure you understand what you are being asked to do - ask questions and get all the information you need to make an informed decision such as:
exactly what work the job involves
deadline
what help and support you'll get

TAKE YOUR TIME
- take the time you need to decide, if necessary delay giving an answer by saying you're busy now but will say tomorrow or need to sleep on it. Do not be bulldozed or bullied into an immediate decision if you're not sure or haven't time to think your response through.
Gut reactions
Take your gut reaction into consideration. Did your stomach churn or your heart sink when you were asked or told what to do? If so you don't want to do whatever it is and you're probably right.

SAYING NO
Work out a short but not completely blunt way of saying no clearly and in a way that you take responsibility for. Useful examples include:
'My answer is no'
'No, I'm not able to do that'
'No that's not a priority for me
' I'm very busy right now'

EXPLAINING
In some situations it's appropriate to give a reason, such as when you're saying no to something that isn't in your job contract or if you're already overloaded and simply can't take on more work. But you don't have to explain yourself in every situation. If the decision is personal or you see no point in giving your reasons because they won't be listened to, then don't bother justifying yourself.

APOLOGISING
Some people think you should only say sorry when you really mean it and that polite or disingenous apologies should be avoided at all times. But others believe that saying sorry even when you don't really mean it is find if it helps you say no and assert yourself in your own way.

SUGGESTING ALTERNATIVES
You may wish to suggest that you would able to do it another time or offer to take on a different task in the future. But be beware of just fobbing people so they come back with unwanted demands in the future or of passing the buck if you say 'why not ask so and so'.

PERSISTENCE
You may need to keep repeating no and whatever else you choose to say with this unfamiliar word until you get through to the other person. Or you show the other person that you've listened to each of their various tacks for trying to persuade you by summarising back to them what they've just said and saying your 'no' at the end of each one.

lilyto

Microsoft Word Helpline

Ini adalah sebuah kisah benar mengenai Microsoft Word Helpline (bantuan berkenaan Microsoft Word melalui telefon). Seorang pekerja di helpline ini telah diberhentikan. Walaubagaimanapun, pekerja ini telah menyaman Word Perfect atas dakwaan “Memecat tanpa Sebab”. Inilah perbualan telefon pekerja berkenaan yang menyebabkan beliau dipecat:
Microsoft: Ridge Hall computer assistance; boleh saya bantu anda?
User: Ya, err, Saya ada masalah dengan Microsoft Word.
Microsoft: Masalah bagaimana tu encik?
User: Saya sedang menaip, tiba-tiba semua perkataan tersebut hilang.”
Microsoft: Hilang?
User: Ya, ia hilang.
Microsoft: Hmm. Macam mana monitor anda kelihatan sekarang?
User: Kosong, tak ada apa-apa.
Microsoft: Tak ada apa-apa?
User: Blank, ia tak respon apa-apa bila saya menaip.
Microsoft: Adakah anda masih didalam Microsoft Word, atau anda telah keluar?
User: Macam mana saya nak tau?”
Microsoft: Bolehkah anda nampak C: prompt pada skrin anda?
User: Apa tu si-perom?
Microsoft: Tak apalah, boleh tak anda gerak-gerakkan mouse anda di skrin?
User: Cursor pun tak ada: kan saya dah kata ianya tak memberi sebarang respon bila saya taip.
Microsoft: Adakah monitor anda ada power indicator?
User: Monitor tu apa?
Microsoft: Ianya adalah sebuah alat yang ada skrin padanya dan ianya berbentuk seperti TV. Adakah ianya mempunyai lampu kecil yang menyala bila monitor anda dihidupkan?
User: Saya tak tahu.
Microsoft: OK, kalau begitu cuba lihat di belakang monitor anda dan cuba cari socket dimana wayar power anda di pasangkan. Boleh nampak tak?
User: Rasa-rasanya.
Microsoft: Bagus. Ikut wayar tersebut hingga ke plug, dan adakah ianya dipasangkan pada soket elektrik di dinding anda.
User: Yaa, terpasang.
Microsoft: Masa anda lihat di belakang monitor tadi, perasankah anda ada dua wayar terpasang di belakang monitor anda, bukannya satu?
User: Iya ke?.
Microsoft: Sebenarnya ada dua. Sekarang saya nak anda pergi balik ke belakang monitor anda dan cari satu lagi wayar tersebut.
User: Okay, jumpa dah.
Microsoft: Cuba ikut wayar tersebut dan beritahu saya samada ianya terpasang dengan ketat di belakang computer anda.
User: Alamak tak sampai laa.
Microsoft: Ok… boleh cuba jenguk-jenguk samada ianya terpasang atau tidak?
User: Tak boleh.
Microsoft: Tak boleh juga ke jika anda cuba panjat apa-apa seperti kerusi dan tengok kat belakang tu?
User: Oh, saya tak nampak bukannya sebab angle tak betul, tapi pasal gelap.
Microsoft: Gelap?
User: Ya. Lampu pejabat ni terpadam dan satu-satunya sumber cahaya yang saya ada adalah dari cahaya tingkap.
Microsoft: OK, kalau macam tu hidupkanlah lampu pejabat anda.
User: Tak boleh.
Microsoft: Tak boleh? Kenapa?
User: Sebab kat pejabat saya “blackout”, tak ada elektrik.
Microsoft: Blackout… tak ada elektrik? Aha, Okay, kita dah dapat penyelesaiannya sekarang. Anda masih mempunyai kotak, manual dan barang-barang pembungkusan semasa komputer ini dihantar?
User: Ada… saya simpan kat dalam almari.
Microsoft: Bagus. pergi ambil barang-barang tersebut dan unplug komputer anda. Kemudian bungkuskan sepertimana masa ianya baru-baru sampai dulu. Hantar balik ke kedai dimana anda beli dulu.
User: Ehh? Ye ke? Macam tu sekali punya teruk ke?
Microsoft: Iya, rasa-rasanya macam itulah.
User: Err… okey lah. Nampaknya saya kena buat macam tu lah. Tapi nak cakap apa dengan pekedai tu?
Microsoft: Beritahu mereka anda terlalu BANGANG untuk memiliki sebuah komputer.

=p

lilyto

How to forget him/her??

1. Forget their names
2. Forget their faces
3. Forget the love that you once knew
4. Remember they have someone new
5. Remember all the harsh things they say when you broke up
6. Forget them when they played your song
7. Remember that you cried all night long
8. Forget how you memorize their walks
9. Forget the way they used to talk
10. Forget the things they used to say
11. Forget their laughs and smiles
12. Delete all their messages
13. Delete all their emails
14. Delete their ym/msn/skype
15. Delete their phone numbers
16. Delete their fs/myspace
17. Just hang around and have fun with your frens
18. Concentrate in study/work
19. Avoid listening to other people's love story
20. Mingle with new people
21. Just think about there's more people WAY better than them!
22. Throw away their gifts
23. Throw away the love notes/letters
24. Throw away their pictures
25. If they ever contacts you back, do not reply
26. Avoid them, if you're working/studying at the same place
27. Forget their birthdays/your anniversaries
28. Change your emails/phone numbers/address(if possible)
29. Go on a vacation
30. JUST FORGET THEM!

n i will
just a matter of time, b****!

lilyto

Why Ladies Today Are Still Single??

-the nice men are ugly

-the handsome men are not nice

-the handsome and nice men are gay

-the handsome,nice and heterosexual men are married

-the men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money

-the men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money

-the handsome men without money are after our money

-the handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough

-the men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money are cowards

-the men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice, and have money and thank God are heterosexual,are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!

-the men who never make the first move, automatically lost interest in us when we take the initiative


credit to adha

lilyto